Privacy – in the eye of the beholder


Like with most things in our lives, finding friends or a partner, recruiting people, eating habits, hobbies, ones sense of discipline and creativity, it all kind of boils down to choices we make based on our personality. Our personality often boils down to our upbringing and values, genetic heritage, personal beliefswisdom and of course external input and feedback on ourselves. On top of it all, you are just the person you think you are, making the choices you think are right for you.

“Privacy is the ability of an individual or group to seclude themselves, or information about themselves, and thereby express themselves selectively. The boundaries and content of what is considered private differ among cultures and individuals, but share common themes. When something is private to a person, it usually means that something is inherently special or sensitive to them. The domain of privacy partially overlaps security (confidentiality), which can include the concepts of appropriate use, as well as protection of information. Privacy may also take the form of bodily integrity.” – Wikipedia definition of Privacy

What if a company, small or large, based on your average presence online, could predict what could convince you about anything, what to buy, how to vote or who to meet, and then also make suggestions or recommendations on how to act? Would you appreciate it? Or would you feel offended?

Research by Professor Michal Kosinski shows that algorithms can predict your personality and future behavior by just analyzing simple data, such as Facebook likes, browsing history or data from “fun tests” you take online. When companies or governments then use these predictions for their own purposes, targeting people with a message that we are most likely to respond to in a positive action; accept, vote yes, buy it, download it etc, it is called psychographic targeting.

“His [Kosinski’s] research covers everything from accurately predicting people’s personalities based on their Facebook likes, to using huge data sets to show that people are most likely to be friends with people who have similar personalities to them.” – Interview with Michal Kosinski in The Psychologist

Kosinski states that even friends doesn’t share the most intimate information about themselves, like their sexual orientation, certain diseases, or whether their parents are about to split up. If a computer algorithm could predict these things by just taking in the list of songs you like on Spotify, or a list of likes you made on Facebook or your browsing history in Chrome… Then that means we’re moving into the Post-Privacy era.

Recommendation, persuasion or manipulation, they all kind of mean the same thing, only we perceive them as positive, neutral and negative. If a friend recommends you a book or a movie, you appreciate this. If your spouse persuades you into agreeing to buy this new sofa for your living room, it’s kind of neutral. If a company or a government manipulates you into buying something or voting a certain way, we are quite negative to that.

We are generating data in everything we do online. We search on Google, we make friends on Facebook, we share YouTube videos and find new music on Spotify. We make purchases, we play games, we fill in forms, we request, we read, we chat and we browse. The data itself is not evil. Most of the times, these data are tracked by the company behind the website that you are visiting, companies advertising on this website, analytics companies and in some cases other third party companies handing services to the site. The data is used as a tool to learn how the website is performing, and for optimizing the website based on users behaviors and needs. It’s also used for user segmenting, profiling, predictions and recommendations. None of these things are bad in itself. It’s the intentions of the decision maker; often the leader of the company or government, and for what purposes these outcomes are used that can be bad. As what happens when a decision maker, like a presidential candidate, use the outcomes to manipulate people into voting for him or her, or if the management of a company chooses to target elderly people for their telemarketing to make them agree to terms they don’t understand. It’s unfair.

The power of algorithms might feel scary, or invasive, and they can be, depending on the person interpreting or making decisions based upon them. But they also come with great advantages, like helping people finding the right jobs for them or monitoring physical health as Kosinski exemplified. Sharing your data while using a service also comes with great benefits, it lets you use location services to find your way around a new city, monitor your heart rate while exercising or get relevant personal offers on purchases you’ve thought of making.

Tailored services and offers made to you based on your geographical location, age or gender is one thing. Specified ads, offers and services to your interests is another. Our interests are multidimensional, meaning we might like a cat-picture because of its composition and our interest in photography, or checking into a sports arena because it’s hosting a concert tonight, not necessarily sport event. It’s not you, it’s a model. Humans are complex, and what these algorithms do is making up a model; your data profile. This means not all of the targeting will be correct and totally awesome, but most will, and often times the recommendations will let you discover new things, and not let you get trapped in a filter bubble just because of your diverse data profile and multidimensional interests.

Before going into what privacy choices you can do, and what to make out of this, you need to decide what privacy means to you. Are you willing to give up location services, recommended stories in the newspaper or finding new friends or offers online? Are you willing to trade your data for these services? Do you trust the companies using this data to create this data profile or “model” of your preferences?

There is a legal regulation coming in place in the EU in May this year regarding your digital privacy. The regulation puts pressure on companies who are operating in the EU to:

  • inform about what data they track and how it’s used
  • structure the data so that it can be delivered back to the users who requests it and,
  • delete it upon request
  • offer the users additional privacy options for personalization and profiling

This regulation forces companies to rethink their data strategy drastically, and for many companies this entails a huge clean-up of policies and databases that is long overdue. It also forces users to think about their online privacy. This is where we stumble upon the privacy paradox. The privacy paradox is mentioned in several research studies where the conclusions points to the same thing; People are in general worried, upset and negative towards the lack of, or declining, privacy online. Although they are willing to trade their data for services and convenience, and they are easily willing to trade their friends privacy for a small monetary incentive.

It might seem strange that this regulation is happening now as we’re already talking about the Post Privacy era. Researchers such as Kosinski believe that trying to regulate for more privacy online is just a distraction and that we need a more long term sustainable strategy for dealing with the openness that is coming, and not regulate for more privacy.

Ending note:

Having it all out in the open, sharing data with companies, governments, family and friends might not be such a bad idea after all? It’s not the data, nor the predictions that are made from them that makes us uncomfortable sharing our data. Many of us grew up with the value that you should keep things private to yourself. But why? Sometimes because if the sensetive information was shared, about ones sexual orientation, physical or mental health state or political viewpoint, you would get reactions from the public or the government that was not beneficial. It could lead to shaming, less perceived self worth, isolation, feeling like an outcast, stalking humiliation and in some cultures even jail or death penalties. Meanwhile, today debates like #metoo against sexual harassment and other online initiatives to get young people to share their feelings about mental pressure and stress are empowering us to share and #talkaboutit.

It’s not wrong sharing your data, it can actually help the world become a more open place. We could predict who will need help, or how to avoid big economic or societal catastrophes if we detect data trends like that. We can become pro-active and treat people better. What are wrong still, are the effects that these predictions may have in the wrong hands, it’s the decision makers, closed corrupt non-democratic societies, lack of trust and empathy that is wrong in this equation. And I’m afraid that we will have much more data, smarter algorithms and bad decision makers before the people in power step up and work on the real problems to put legislation in place that protects the people that needs to be protected.

If we’re heading towards a world where there is no privacy, the legal entities of the European Union and countries and large companies need to work together on how to organize societies and the technology to work in a world without privacy. Educating the population on information retrieval, whether it may be political or social, work towards more open and tolerant societies in the world where right now having the “wrong” sexual orientation or religious view could lead to a death sentence. Let’s not regulate privacy through technology, let’s make way for a more humane and open world.

Watch more:

  1. The End of Privacy
  2. AI Is Already Smarter Than We Are
  3. Can We Out Evolve Artificial Intelligence?

Photos: Schibsted and INMA Global Media Awards winners 2017

Schibsted was not only nominated to many awards, we also ended up winning 1st prize in several of the categories!

Schibsted crew in the beginning of the evening and at the mingle.

Schibsted crew after winning six 1st place prizes (happy faces!)

I had the privilege to collect the award from the Chairman of INMA that the Creation Suite won.

And a fun picture where it really shows how cool I think it was that we won and happy faces!

So happy for the opportunity to go to New York to represent Creation Suite at the award dinner and take part in the INMA World Congress with lots of inspiration!

INMA Global Media Awards 2017

I’m writing this as I’m waiting for a delayed flight to New York at Gardemoen, Oslo. I’m on my way to New York to attend the INMA World Congress of News Media. The International News Media Association (INMA) is the world’s leading provider of global best practices for news media companies looking to grow revenue, audience, and brand amid profound market change. I’m also very excited to attend the INMA Global Media Awards dinner on Tuesday to represent the Creation Suite that is nominated for the award: “Best New Corporate Innovation Initiative”.

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The nomination was composed by my managers and the whole team is of course standing behind the success, over 50 amazing colleagues in Oslo, Stockholm and Krakow working on the products Discover, Create, Engage, Relate, Curate, Stream, and of course the cross-functional roles.

Not only the Creation Suite is nominated from Schibsted! I’m proud to announce all our nominations for the INMA Global Media Awards:

The Creation Suite is nominated for Best New Corporate Innovation Initiative (Global/ National brands)

Aftenposten is nominated for Best Use of Data Analytics (Global/ National brands)

Schibsted is nominated for Best Idea to Encourage Print Readership or Engagement (Global/ National brands)

Aftenposten for Best Use of Social Media (Global/ National brands)

Bergens Tidene for Best Idea to Grow Digital Readership or Engagement (Regional/ Local brands)

Last year, 2016, Svenska Dagbladet won the top prize of the awards in London.

I’m so looking forward to the agenda at the congress! Look at this agenda:

  • The Third Wave of Digital Disruption and a Recipe to Fight It
  • Where the Signals Point News Media Next
  • Facebook and the Fake News Phenomenon
  • Optimising Digital Subscriptions For Your Audience and Ecosystem (with Siri Holstad Johannessen, Head of Sales and Marketing, Schibsted Norway)
  • Big Data, AI, and the Strategic Priorities for Media
  • Mobile and Social for News Brands: Today’s Priorities
  • The Early Hope for Virtual Reality
  • News Media Outlook: The Indispensability of News Brands

I’ll definitely report back with some thoughts after the congress!

Journalism in the heart of our products

Like six months or so back, I wrote my last blogpost as a recruiter. Now, this is my personal blog, so it doesn’t really matter what I work as, but I thought this one should be the first I write as a Product Manager.

It’s been a very interesting journey these past six months, and I’ve enjoyed every second of it! I finally got to join the team I looked up to since I started at Schibsted. It was then called the Schibsted Media Platform, a successful distributed and autonomous team with great culture. Since then, all of publishing in Schibsted has gone through a re-organisation to ensure speed, transparency and full focus on digital. We, the Creation Suite, are now Schibsted Publishing Platform together with Distribution and Monetization teams. We work very closely together with embedded teams in the newsrooms focusing on the core news product and news destination as well as the teams focusing on the future of news destinations.

I’m the product manager for an editorial tool used in the newsrooms by journalists and editors called Discover. We’re a part of the Creation Suite, where we together with the other teams provide a seamless suite for discovery, creation, analysis and curation to publish news digitally.

Journalists use Discover to monitor the current affairs in the world around them, to discover breaking news events directly from newswires, and for inspiration. We monitor sources like global news websites, blogs, magazines, licensed content from newswires, Facebook public feed in Norwegian and Swedish and mobile push notifications from any provider you want to follow.

What is the most important task when learning about a breaking news event? The need to inform the public right away of what’s going on locally or globally. We therefore have seamless integration from discovery to start creating and editing the news story and then quickly press publish. The content layout is totally up to the news destination how they want to present it. Other teams are working on the frameworks for aligning this process as well.

Breaking news reporting becomes even more crucial in extreme situations such as terror attacks. It requires a balance between caution and urgency. Caution regarding fact checking and urgency to get the information out there to help people navigate locally and inform the world globally. This is something my team is inspired by, finding ways to help the newsroom sort, fact check and publish quickly.

Another very important aspect of discovery is the detection of trends, and I’m not only talking about likes, comments, shares or viral trends here, but tips trends from the citizens. One of the most important sources a journalist has are the citizens. Whistleblowers and multiple tips from the public may help discover questionable affairs that politicians, the government and state-owned instances are a part of. It’s a part of the investigative work journalists do to monitor those in power.

What motivates me the most about my job is not pure tech, product development or working with people and users (all of those things are really motivating and fun tho!) but supporting journalism as a mission and a service to the world.

Screenshot of the Discover tool.
Screenshot of the Discover tool.

Personal development and career-coaching

When I started recruiting, 5 years ago, I did not have any experience with interviewing or career coaching what so ever. I had no academic background in HR or People Operations, and frankly I was an introvert engineer with an interest in the human mind. I had to learn everything from scratch, how to search for talent, to contact them, get them into interviews and interview them. What I did not know at the time that was going to become a large part of my daily work was career coaching. I started recruiting directly from university and I started recruiting students and graduates. Naturally I had an understanding for them and connected with them well. As I grew into my role, I also started to see things that students and graduated did badly when they were looking for jobs or being interviewed. I started coaching them, or rather engaging in a conversation about this with them. I organized student-evenings where we’d go through how to write a CV or how to cope with interviews.

After conducting over 2000 interviews and reading I-don’t-know-how-many CV’s in my career, I found myself not only coaching graduates but also senior people in their careers. Developing and/ or changing your job or career is one of the largest decisions we have to make in life and naturally a lot of thoughts and options arise when you start thinking about making something out of it. Let’s bring these thoughts into actions.

Peace of mind
Peace of mind

It starts with you

Find your core values. No, it’s not new-age nonsense, finding your own values that you want to live by helps you make decisions and take the right actions towards your goal. When you act according to your own values you feel motivated and engaged. Values are quite general, like honesty, respect, responsibility, safety and creativity. You should focus on maximum 5 core values at a time. Your values may change over the course of life, and at different points of your career.

Find your greatest interests and passion. It doesn’t matter what it is, if it has to do with “work” or if it’s a hobby. Finding your interests and passion, and finding a job that correlates with that to some extent, will make your work life so much easier and rewarding. If your interests or passions aren’t obvious, try visualizing what situation you’ve been in when you enter a state of flow. Flow is the mental state where you are fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus when performing an activity. You have full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity.

Find the best environment and atmosphere for you. Continue visualizing what you need in order to enter flow again. What environment do you need, physically? Do you need an open office space, a lot of good colleagues, special light or nutritious food? Also start thinking about the company culture and what culture will fit you the best. What do you need from colleagues, managers and what kind of atmosphere will you thrive in?

You don’t necessarily have to be looking for a new job; maybe you just want to make sure you’re on the right path? Once you have a clearer picture of what you want to do or where you want to end up, take action towards it.


Start zooming in

Connect with your network. Are you on Facebook and/ or LinkedIn, this is pretty much done for you. Start looking up old friends, colleagues or people you went to school with. What do they do now? What connections do you have in common? It might suit you to focus on the role, or industry, or topic and not all at once. Start with where your passion lies, and from there it can take many forms. Write down interesting companies, roles and topics that you find during your research.

Connect with, and contact people. Don’t just send a generic “I want to add you to my network”-request. Ask a common connection if they can introduce you or write why you want to connect with this person. If you’ve read their blog, say so, if you are curious about their recent project – ask if they can tell you about it! People often really enjoy being contacted in a “human” way, and they will meet you. I’ve reached out to people this way, either to hear more about their idea, their company, or actually to “recruit” a mentor for myself. It’s humbling to receive a request like this. I think we all should start utilizing our network more and make them come alive! What does 600 friends on Facebook or LinkedIn mean, if you don’t interact with them?

It’s all about the attitude. If you feel that this is super awkward, I’ll guarantee you it will be awkward. If your attitude is that this is super natural, you are genuinely interested in the other person and what they do, or how they solved a problem, it will feel natural. What I’m talking about now is you as a person, meeting with another person – not approaching a company through a recruiter or HR. I’m not saying either that you have to be looking for a new job to do this, you just want to make the most out of your network. This requires an open mind to whatever might come out of the meeting. YES, it is going to feel strange the first time, and you might feel too humble and not feel comfortable to ask for their time, but remember – we’re all just people.

Some tips for the road…

When you reach out, tell them exactly what caught your interest with their profile and why you want to meet. It can be as fluffy as “I read your latest blog post and I thought it would be super interesting you get your view on something I’ve been working on…wanna grab a coffee?” or “I find your background super interesting, when you X at Y for example, and I’m looking to broaden my network within in this area, and I would love to meet you for a coffee to get to know you and the industry better. ” Find your own touch.

Prepare an agenda based on their profile or what you want out from the meeting. While in the meeting, keep it casual or as business as you want, but I suggest you don’t open with “So to start with my first question..”. Prepare what you want to know and be genuinely interested in the other person and what they have to say.

Sum up and agree on the next actions (if any). At the end, sum up the meeting and thank the person for taking the time to meet you. If you’ve found some common interests, business-intersections or actions that you’ve agreed on – that’s great! But don’t be disappointed if you didn’t, you still broadened or deepened your network and you should feel proud of that.

Happy networking!


There’s no I in Change

The past 1,5 years, I’ve not only experienced the tremendous work it takes for a global company to reorganize, disrupt and innovate into a product- and technology company. I’ve also learnt what it takes from the people working there.

It’s not the new office, or the new PowerPoint templates that define a change. People do. If you don’t listen to your employees or take care of them during a change process, they will leave. If you win over the people in your organization, you have everything to win going forward with the change.

I think Schibsted Reboot Conference is a great example of getting everyone on the same page. We gathered 1400 Product and Tech employees under the same roof, letting people get to know each other, engaging in inspirational workshops and listening to talented internal and external speakers. The history, what lead up to the change, the present, what we’re going through, and the vision and goal for this change was clearly communicated.

Check out #schREBOOT on Twitter.

It’s easy to feel threatened, insecure, and uncomfortable because things are ambiguous during a change process. When these feelings take the overhand of individuals, there’s a risk they will start acting selfishly and do everything they can to shake these feelings, naturally. People feel threatened, insecure and uncomfortable if they don’t get the information they need;

  • What is going on?
  • Where are we in the process, what can I expect?
  • What do you expect from me?


I’m a part of a large company going through a change process, so what can I do?

Expect the unexpected

Teams change names every other week, you need to change desks every other month, new people start, other people leave; expect that things will change and do whatever it takes to smoothen the process.

Seek out information

Expect that you are under informed at all times, and that it’s expected from you to ask about what is going on. The people dealing with communication can’t read your mind, what do you want to know and what is important to you? It’s like a relationship; communication needs to work both ways.

Be solutions oriented

Things will be rocky; problems will arise, big and small. You will make huge impact if you show your problem solving skills at this stage. If you find a problem, or hear about it from your colleagues, take action and do something about it. If we can catch the problems small, it will be a much smoother ride.

See the bigger picture

You’re a part of something revolutionary! Your company is on a mission, so take a few moments during a week where you remind yourself what larger purpose you serve. What is this line of code, or this phone call worth? Whether the goal is to save the world, or revolutionize an industry, put it all together and look at the bigger picture.

Have fun!

Have kick-offs with your team, socialize and play games. You put in some hard work, make sure you have fun while doing it. Building stronger relationships with your colleagues in this phase is important. It will make you collaborate better and trust each other more if you know the other person well.

Growing a brand new Product- and Tech organization

As you might already know, I’ve been working as a technical recruiter for the past 5 years and most recent 1,5 years at Schibsted Media Group. Being a technical recruiter puts you in a position where you get to see everything that is going on in an organization. Hot tip, if you want to get a sense check on a company; go talk with their technical recruiter!

As a technical recruiter…

  • You need to understand the underlying strategy of the company.
  • You need to understand the purpose of every product, component or platform being built.
  • You need to understand the teams and the different roles in the teams.
  • You need to know who they are and what technologies they use.
  • You need to be able to advise your Hiring Managers on what vacancy to prioritize.
  • You interact with all managers (Engineering, Product, UX and Strategy) and with top management on a weekly basis.

On top of all the comprehension and learning you need to do, you also need to be a great team player and know how to solve problems systematically. Then there are some tools you should be able to use, some phone calls you have to make… and oh, you should be able to find, attract and hire top talent to build a world-class product- and technology organization.

Easy peasy.

Quick search on LinkedIn shows 193 jobs available as Technical Recruiter in San Fransisco, USA.
Quick search on LinkedIn shows 193 jobs available as Technical Recruiter in San Fransisco, USA.


Schibsted Products and Technology was the result of a strategy project regarding Digital Transformation back in 2014. Schibsted has been sort of a house of brands, owning over 120 companies in 30 countries. In total, we’re 6800 employees world wide working in media houses, marketplaces or growth companies. Schibsted has a strong foundation in publishing; ever since our founder Christian Schibsted bought his first printing press and started a newspaper. That newspaper was Aftenposten in Norway.

I don’t know how much you know about publishing, or corporate structure, or other Norwegian companies and their culture. But regardless of that, the story of what Schibsted is up to now, taking action on digital transformation of the whole company, is quite remarkable.

Taking into account that Schibsted has a track record of disruptive innovation and taking chances that no other media company has done before, this is still a huge transformation.

We are connecting the dots, and building an ecosystem of services online. We use the strength in our local brands that our users know and have developed a trusted relationship to, and our global scale that helps us reach over 200 million users every month.

We are changing the way we work. Product development and innovation will continue at our local brands to meet and exceed our users demands. The global products, components and platforms will enable each local brand to focus on their core, at the same time we get better insights in our users needs globally.

Building a global product- and tech org from scratch means we need to pay a little extra attention to some things, to mention some of them:

  • Company culture
  • Communication
  • Recruiting

teamworkA 176-year-old publishing and media company is re-inventing itself to become a global tech-giant; of course we need to focus on company culture. Besides the obvious support from top management, great action by global leaders and evangelists, paying attention to company culture means: recruit people that can drive this new tech culture forward. Culture is not the same as values, it is when employees live the company values that they become culture. Culture is people.


chatWe are 6800 people in Schibsted. During reorganization like this, it will feel like a rocky boat-ride and most people will feel uncertain at times and wonder what will happen to their career. Besides advocating that everyone should assume responsibility of ones own career and seek out information, we need to be good communicators. Every small piece of information will become essential in this change. We build a culture where people are not afraid to ask, raise their concerns or simply take action and start communicating more. Next, everyone need to understand the change, embrace it, find your place in it and start collaborating with others.


Recruiting the right people at this stage of a process like this is crucial. The people we bring in need to be people who can start building the bike while riding it. The key is passion and motivation. We find the people who have the interest and intrinsic motivation to be on this journey and help build not only products, but also a brand new organization. Better yet, they’re in it for the challenge and knowing that they can make a great impact joining this early in the process. They need to be smart problem solvers who engage in any kind of difficult challenge. Since 2014 Schibsted Products and Technology has grown from 11 people to over 400 in four hubs; Oslo, Stockholm, London and Barcelona.

We’re still laying out the bricks as we go, but I just must say I’m so proud to be a part of this and to be working with such smart and amazing people.

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Real Journalism

I’ve never felt more motivated at work, and that’s because my values and the purpose of our products are aligned. It’s important, and it’s urgent.

“Our mission is to contribute to a functioning democracy by closing the gap between what citizens know and what they need to know about the world around them.” – Schibsted Publishing

We are in the forefront of reinventing the newsroom and challenge the global giants that call themselves Publishers.

My wish is that you have full focus on why we make this technology, and it is to do a job on behalf of society. We inform, to investigate, stories that someone doesn’t like that we investigate, but it’s a really important task. So yes, we do technology, and we do technology for a purpose. – Espen Egil Hansen, Editor in Chief at Aftenposten


I believe real journalism needs to stand up for itself. To inform and educate about the differences in journalisms and the so called publishers out there.

I started watching the TV series The Newsroom this weekend, which was actually a quite nice timing. The anchor McAvoy and his team set out to a similar mission.

“It might come as a surprise to you that some of history’s greatest American journalists are working right now, exceptional minds with years of experience and an unshakeable devotion to reporting the news. But these voices are a small minority now and they don’t stand a chance against the circus when the circus comes to town. They’re over matched. I’m quitting the circus and switching teams. I’m going with the guys who are getting creamed. I’m moved that they still think they can win and I hope they can teach me a thing or two. From this moment on, we’ll be deciding what goes on our air and how it’s presented to you based on the simple truth that nothing is more important to a democracy than a well-informed electorate. We’ll endeavor to put information in a broader context because we know that very little news is born at the moment it comes across our wire. We’ll be the champion of facts and the mortal enemy of innuendo, speculation, hyperbole, and nonsense. We’re not waiters in a restaurant serving you the stories you asked for just the way you like them prepared. Nor are we computers dispensing only the facts because news is only useful in the context of humanity.” – Will McAvoy in the series The Newsroom on HBO

Good Enough

Insecure, confident, overachiever or slacker, mindful or stressed, you are not only one of these things. The beautiful mind of yours, is a compound of these emotions and attributes. One day you might feel sad, another day, you feel invincible.

I want to try and explain what I feel regarding goals, my comfort zone and social media and how that is connected with feeling good enough.

I think “too much” and I believe that I will always have a bit of a stress dealing with this sinus curve of life. That sounded dark, but you know, it’s not. It’s exactly that – LIFE. I try and do my best at everything. It is like I hope that someday, like a lightning through the sky, out of a sudden, something will tell me “This is good enough” or better yet “You are good enough”.

My mind often tells me; You should be educated, be a great friend, a loving girlfriend, a party-starter, a collaborative colleague, an overachiever, a kick-starter, a co-founder, aspire to once become a super-mom, be a fitnessqueen and if you are something less, that’s not good enough. Being aware of these thoughts is a first step, changing the pattern with actions is a good second.


If you think about it, you shouldn’t want to reach your goal, how fun would that be? “I’ll take the rest of my life off, I just reached my goal yesterday.” You’ll find a new goal, and a new challenge. Goals can be uplifting, or they can feel overwhelming. This has to do with how you set your goals, and how you think about yourself and your own ability to reach them. There are ways to write down SMART goals, but if you are not smart about them, they can easily be too fluffy or too hard to reach. They should connect with your inner core, your values and be sprinkled with your passion and dreams. Not the other way around.

Get a good mentor, a life coach and maybe you’ll have a few of them? I listen to my parents, successful women in tech, my boyfriend and my closest friends. You don’t have to listen to only one person at a time unless it’s you. You have the power to combine the advice and input from all of these sources to connect with who you are.

Comfort Zone

What’s with this famous Comfort Zone and the all the fuzz about being on the outside of it? Yes, it’s where you grow, plans are realized, dreams come true and you see pink skies, drink rainbows and poop butterflies. Until you hit a wall.

It’s not that I don’t agree about the above statement, but no one told me that I had to visit the comfort zone every now and then to make it work. The comfort zone is also for growth, it’s where you put your guard down, learn to trust, listen to and help other people. It is where you do the deep thinking about yourself, the world and how it’s all connected. You can’t do that when you’re uncomfortable and always on the go. Search for personal growth, a successful career or a kickass physique outside the comfort zone, but come visit your comfort zone once in a while to catch your breath.

Social Media

What does social media do to your mind? How do you handle the exposure, visibility and attention? I’m on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, LinkedIn, Pinterest etc. I use them as different communication channels for different messages to different audiences. That’s what they are to me. I see myself as strong enough to be able to look through hundreds or thousands of fitness-posts on Instagram or successful profiles on LinkedIn, without letting it change me and how I feel about myself. I’m not sure that I am that strong though.

Break it down, sometimes watching these social media is really motivating and it is usually that day I feel invincible. “I can reach this form too, I can get abs!” “I too can co-found a company!” Other days, when I’m sad, I might look at the pictures and my inner voice tells me “You’re not good enough, look at you, that is never going to be you.” How can I learn to understand this pattern, and stay away from social media when my mind can’t do anything constructive with the message?It’s so easy to state, “I’m not affected by social media”. But it’s not that easy. I believe that some can learn to become aware how it affects them, some won’t ever get affected (negatively) and some should probably not be on social media because of the complexity of messages and interpretations.

If social media make you question if you’re good enough, try and make a change.

Often, women are found to be the insecure overachievers to a larger extent than their male peers. What I found has helped me is to talk about it openly. Share your success, share others success, share your insecurities and back each other up. It is not hard being a woman in tech, or in random male dominated environment, nor is it easy. It’s ever-changing, but it’s not until we have reached the same norms and dogmas as foundation for both men and women outside and inside tech communities, that we can stop talking about it.

On the move

I’m moving in together with O this fall, and will be renting out my apartment on central Grünerløkka one year from the 1st of November 2016.

Check it out! 🙂

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Markveien 34, 3rd floor
Grünerløkka, Oslo

Fully furnished 1-bedroom apartment in the heart of Grünerløkka available from December 1st, 2016.

14 000 NOK / month

The apartment is on the 3rd floor and comprises of an entrance hall, a bedroom, dressing room, bathroom / WC, living room with access to the kitchen. Additionally the apartment disposes a basement storage in the building of about 4,5m².

Areas and Content Descriptors:
Total gross area: 47 sq.m.
Total floor area: 42 sq.m.